How To Find A Perfect Mate Before Infatuation Clouds Your Thinking

May 3rd, 2009 by John

How to Find the Perfect Mate…Use Your Heart and Your Head!

I wonder how many people’s perfect mate is right now under their very noses, hidden by the word “friend”? You know, that special guy or girlthat you turn to every time some “dreamboat” or another has broken your heart,(again) and left you a whimpering, downtrodden mess. The problem is, we get all caught up in the image of what our dream mate looks like and we forget the truly important thing: what our dream matemakes us feel like. If the good looking member of the opposite sex makes you feel bad, are they really a dream you want to have?

Growing up, we all had our teen idols that we had our first crushes and “lust moments” over, but as we grow older we realize that sometimes what is on the outside does not hold a candle to what is on the inside. Unfortunately, for some of us, that lesson is a hard learned one and so we are bound to get our foolish hearts broken a time or two while searching for more “dreams” so that we can turn them into “our dream mate”.

Got a little secret for you boys and girls…it is not going to happen. Looking for a mate by looks alone is not going to get you anything but a good looking empty shell. Yeah I know, there are those that get the ones that are not only hot but charming, funny and sweet too. Is that you?…Well then I hate your guts:)

You really have to know what it is that you want out of life before you know who your dream mate might be. You have to know your goals, your temperament and for most of all, you have to know yourself before you throw another person into the mix. If you know that you want to be a world traveler for instance, you better not tie your dream wagon to a partner that gets car sick backing out of the driveway.

Either they have to change or the dream has to change, so you you’ll need decide what you will and will not give in on. Everyone has one or two must haves and can’t stands, know what yours are before you even start looking. For me, a sense of humor is just as important as having air to breath. I need to laugh, preferably every day. I could not live with a seriously uptight, no nonsense kind of girl that thought laughing was frivolous.

Right there I have ruled out one whole category of women. Be flexible. Ease up on yourself. Know that there is a huge difference between fantasy and a dream mate. A fantasy is the one that will never happen, and you can change it daily. The dream mate? Well, that one is changeable too, until you meet the one that truly is your dream mate.

I hope you find them soon,