Dating, and How To Communicate With Your Eyes

May 7th, 2009 by John

The Eyes Have it…Dating, and How to Communicate with your Eyes

Your eyes are the windows to your soul. They give you away when you are happy and when you are sad. They tell on you when you are thinking naughty thoughts. They twinkle like stars, and snap like fireworks. Your lover gets drawn into them every time you kiss. Your eyes can say more than your actual words at times. You communicate more than you will ever know with your eyes.

Look across the table and make eye contact. Let your lover see the twinkles that dance in your eyes whenever you look at him or her. Raise one eyebrow suggestively. Maybe even give them a slow, smoldering wink that will guarantee they will wolf that meal down!

Are you upset with your date but don’t really want to get drawn into an acrimonious argument? Let them see the pain in your eyes. They will see how dull the color is, notice that the shimmer is gone and undoubtedly shape up in a hurry. No man likes to see the person that has captured their heart in any kind of pain, and they will do whatever it takes to bring the fire back to your eyes.

If you feel guilty about something, you probably will not be making as much eye contact. Ironically, studies show that men who are guilty of infidelity will make more eye contact than considered normal in an attempt to convince others of his innocence.

Your eyes can reveal more than you would really like them to at times. You are pretending to be perfectly happy, and that is what you keep saying to everybody, but your downcast, red rimmed eyes tell a whole different story. You are not happy and we can all tell. Conversely, you are trying to play it cool with a new lover, but your eyes snap and sparkle like perfectly cut diamonds. You shake your head and say that they are just “okay” when your friends ask, but they can see the light in your eyes whenever you talk about them. Your eyes have just ratted you out!

We wink and bat our eyes to flirt. We roll our eyes to express disgust, annoyance or boredom. We clamp our eyes shut when we are afraid, and open them wide when we are surprised. Our eyes appear partially closed to signal our sexual arousal. Our eyes allow us to pass messages to people when words are not going to get it done. Every single emotion we feel as humans shows in our eyes.

We look for messages in our lover’s eyes and hope that we are not misreading cues. We mourn when we look into lifeless eyes and realize there is no feeling there to be expressed any longer. And we smile, when we look across the table and get a slow, smoldering wink and a single eyebrow raised message.

Ah yes, the eyes have it!

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